TIWA’S MATTER AND EGBEDA MURDER: TOO MUCH SOCIETAL PRESSURE ON OUR GIRLS ABOUT MARRIAGE?

QUESTIONS/MATTERS ARISING

ABOUT MR AND LATE MRS SHONDE

1.The talk of the town was Tiwa Savage and TJ brouhaha.But the Egbeda murder came as a rude shock and no one is talking about Tiwa’s video interview anymore! Tiwa versus TJ matter,at least for now, belongs to history.

2.What is the name of the publishing house on Talabi Street late Mrs Shonde was working in as Human Resources Manager?

3.What is the full name of her alleged lover who is said to be the General Manager of the publishing company? We have read that his first name is Kayode. But Kayode what,who or whom?

ABOUT SOCIETAL PRESSURE ON OUR GIRLS/WOMEN

4.Are we applying too much pressure on our girls/women to get married as if that is the only way to measure their successes in life?

5.Are we really aware of the problems being faced by new couples these days,the pressures they face from modern living and their psychological maturity at handling these problems?Are the so-called ministries set up for women affairs adequately financed to do real research and bring up programs to tackle these problems at their root levels?Do churches and other religious organizations need more and active follow-ups or programs for newly married couples similar to counselings done before weddings?

6.Do young husbands today have proper societal atmosphere to develop real and lasting relationships with their wives when there are so many morally-bankrupt girls, baby mamas and other women around who do not give a hoot about marriage vows? Unfortunately for many wives marriage is seen by their husbands as favorite video games.When a new one or a cheaper China-made version comes along or they get tired of their old favorites they go try their hands on new ones (relationships).

7.What can parents do to help  their girl-child who is strong-willed and  feminist-inclined before she gets married? Counseling? Prayers? Subtle interference? Warnings?

8.Once a husband has a child outside wedlock say with a baby mama can things ever be the same again?If one’s child is the wife how do one persuade her to stay in the marriage with the pain arising from her husband’s infidelity?Even as parents can we really feel her pains?

9.How soon should a wife’s family advise her in very strong terms to withdraw from a physically abusive marriage especially where children are involved and the husband has no visible means of livelihood? Or when she reveals she wants out?

10.If a girl looks closely at Tiwa’s and Egbeda murder cases and decides to remain single or have a relationship different from popular norms,should we keep rejecting what she says or frowning at such unusual ideas? By the way, are most marriages these days conducted strictly for the benefit of couples or for showing off by parents and families? I have been thinking about this issue for quite a while  and it looks like there are many rivers to cross and many more questions to answer.

Kindly tell us what you think,please.

RONKE’S FAMILY RELEASES PROOF OF BATTERY, INFIDELITY…ALLEGED LOVER DENIES RELATIONSHIP

The man accused of dating late Ronke Shonde, Kayode, has denied the allegation, saying he only had a professional relationship with the deceased.

This is just as the family of the victim released Whatsapp snapshots which showed Ronke’s husband, Lekan, admitting to brutalising her, asking for God’s forgiveness and promising to stop beating her.

Our correspondent had reported that 51-year-old Lekan allegedly killed his wife at their home in the Egbeda-Idimu area of Lagos State last Thursday.

Lekan, a dockworker, had however denied complicity in the death, saying he never touched her.

He accused her of sleeping with Kayode, the general manager of a publishing company where she worked as the human resources manager.

After three days in hiding, the suspect gave himself up to the police and was taken to the State Department of Criminal Investigation, Yaba.

PUNCH Metro learnt on Wednesday that Kayode had denied the allegation.

A close family friend, who claimed to have spoken with him, explained that he said he had always been harassed by Lekan with messages and unfounded allegations.

He said, “We spoke yesterday (Tuesday) and he completely denied anything like that. He said he had proof of the man making all kinds of allegations against him and asking him to leave his wife alone, which he had never responded to. He said he was biding his time and would make all the revelations in due time.”

It was gathered that Kayode and Ronke’s brother, Jide, who died in a ghastly motor accident in July 2015, were friends.

After the death of Jide, Kayode, who was working in Ibadan, Oyo State, was said to have been transferred to Lagos by his company.

In Lagos, he was said to have struck a friendship with Ronke because of her late brother.

Due to Ronke’s influence in the publishing company owned by her uncle, Kayode was said to have joined the publishing firm and was made the general manager.

Their friendship and the managerial positions were said to have made it possible for them to always travel and go out together.

Kayode was also said to have become close to Ronke’s uncle, who owned the firm.

It was learnt that both Kayode and Ronke had travelled to recruit new workers for the Abuja office, when the allegation of sleeping together was leveled against them.

Meanwhile, the family of Ronke has released Whatsapp snapshots, showing a conversation between Lekan and one of Ronke’s friends, Ashabi.

In a chat, he asked Ashabi to beg Ronke on his behalf, promising not to assault her again.

He also claimed that the child brought to his home was a setup, denying the paternity of the baby.

Ashabi, in one of the chats, said Ronke was already slipping into depression, urging Lekan to become a better husband and father.

She said Ronke wept while talking with her because of the constant battery and public embarrassment.

Below are excerpts of some of the chats:

Lekan: Am sick and tired. Am going crazy. Please help me out. I rest my case. Am crying as I am writing this to you. But help me to talk to her. Aburo mi (my younger sister), I don’t want to lose her. I want her in my house forever.

Lekan: Because of God, please help me. Ha, I have really offended her. May God forgive me. Please you are my saviour, help me talk to her.

Lekan: I can have plenty of sex outside, but I don’t want to fornicate again. Yes, just want my wife back. I swear to God, I will never touch her again.

Ronke’s friend: She is really broken and hurt, uncle. She said a lot. But I begged her and you have to keep showing her you are a better person, and you want your family back. It is not a day’s job uncle and you have to be patient with her and get her to trust and love you again. She is falling into depression which is more terrible.

One of Lekan’s friends, Sunday Nwaobi, said he had known him for about 33 years, adding that he had credibility and couldn’t have killed his wife.

He said, “He was my junior in secondary school and was a classmate to my immediate younger brother. My brother retired as a general manger of a brewery in America and they are best of friends. My brother is an American citizen, well traveled, and has met a lot of world leaders. I know he will never go out with somebody who does not have credibility.”

The Police Public Relations Officer, Lagos State, SP Dolapo Badmos, said the police were working on getting the result of the autopsy, adding that it would determine the command’s next line of action.

She said, “We are not in charge of the result and we can’t determine when it will be out. But I can assure you that we are on it and as soon as it is released, we won’t hide anything.”

Copyright PUNCH.

EGBEDA MURDER: DECEASED’S ALLEGED LOVER ABSCONDS

HAPPIER DAYS?

Managing Director of a publishing firm in Ikeja and alleged lover of late Mrs. Ronke Shonde, who was allegedly beaten to death by her husband at their Egbeda home in Lagos, last week, has reportedly been absent from work since Monday, following his indictment as the cause of the quarrel that led to the tragedy.

A visit to the office located on the ground floor of a two-storey building on Talabi Street, Ikeja, yesterday, revealed that the publishing firm’s MD was absent.

Members of staff of the company kept mum when approached, saying that they were not in the best position to speak. Besides, the late Ronke’s husband, Lekan Shonde, who was interrogated by detectives at the Homicide section of the State Criminal Intelligence and Investigation Department, yesterday, still maintained that his late wife had a secret relationship with her boss.

He had earlier stated that he over-heard a telephone conversation between his late wife and her boss, (names withheld) where she allegedly recalled their love escapades, adding that his late wife never contradicted the claim.

Read more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/05/egbeda-murder-deceaseds-alleged-lover-absconds/