IS DONALD TRUMP A NARCISSIST — OR A BULLY? HERE’S WHAT PSYCHOLOGISTS SAY

The good news: he shows no signs of being a Machiavellian schemer.

The Donald was at it again during Wednesday’s Republican debate, with his usual questionable claims, insults, not-so-humble brags and bizarre ramblings.

By now, most of us are all too familiar with the brash behavior, bullying and boasting that seem to define Trump’s personality. But what’s really going on underneath those golden locks? What do we really know about Trump’s personality and, heaven forbid, the type of leader he would make?

We can only speculate, of course, but the Republican candidate’s behavior does offer clues. HuffPost Science spoke to some psychologists to learn more about Trump’s personality and emotional life. Here’s what we learned.

He seems to be the opposite of humble.

And this should surprise exactly… no one.

“In watching Donald Trump in the Republican debates, he comes across as someone who is self-centered and lacking in humility,” Taya Cohen, a personality researcher at Carnegie Mellon University, told The Huffington Post in an email. “He seems to be aware of this persona, as he ironically joked that his presidential codename could be ‘Humble.'”

Cohen analyzed Trump’s persona, focusing specifically on honesty-humility. This broad dimension of personality encompasses qualities like greed, sincerity and fairness and reflects a person’s moral character.

“Trump rarely, if ever, admits mistakes or expresses guilt, shame, or embarrassment for things he has said or done, suggesting that, with the exception of pride, self-conscious emotions do not play a central role in his life,” Cohen said.

There’s one big caveat here. Trump doesn’t appear to embody a main characteristic of the honesty-humility personality dimension: Machiavellianism. Cohen explained that people high in Machiavellianism tend to be dishonest, callous and manipulative.

“Indeed, Trump’s reputation as honest, candid, and outspoken is a large source of his appeal to voters,” Cohen said. “In contrast to Trump, Machiavellian individuals believe in telling people what they want to hear. Trump’s controversial public statements in the media suggest that he does not prioritize telling people what they want to hear.”

He may be a serious narcissist.

Trump once told Maureen Dowd, a New York Times columnist, “I am a man of great achievement … I always win … It’s what I do. I beat people. I win.”

As we all know, Trump likes to see the world in terms of winners (him) and losers/morons/haters (including Barack Obama, Arianna Huffington, Rihanna and pretty much the rest of the U.S. population).

“Narcissists like Donald Trump … are constantly driven to prove themselves among the ‘winners’ of the world, often by triumphing over or denigrating other people as comparative ‘losers,'” Joseph Burgo, psychotherapist and author of The Narcissist You Know, told The Huffington Post in an email. “If you examine Trump’s language in his public statements as well as in the debates, you will hear him proclaim his winner status again and again while sneering at his detractors as losers.”

Why? This type of me-versus-everyone mentality and behavior is often a misguided attempt to mask feelings of emptiness and shame. As Burgo explained, people with high levels of narcissism tend to be driven by unconscious feelings of unworthiness.

“The constant self-aggrandizement reflects an ongoing, non-stop effort to build up and support a self-image that contradicts this unconscious sense of defect,”Burgo said. “You don’t need a doctorate in psychology to wonder whether a man who feels the need to forever trumpet his superiority might feel an entirely different way underneath. The gentleman doth protest too much, methinks.”

He has traits that have brought him leadership success.

Perhaps Trump’s most observable characteristic is boldness. He’s confident, outspoken, in your face and seems to hold a very high opinion of himself.

These qualities may have helped him succeed as a leader in business (and, to some extent, as a candidate), but that may not get him much further than the primaries.

“In general, people like that make a good first impression, but become difficult to work with over time because they feel entitled to special treatment, ignore criticism, and intimidate others,” Ryne Sherman, a personality psychologist at Florida Atlantic University, told The Huffington Post in an email. “They also tend to overestimate their capabilities, which results in trying to accomplish too much too quickly and overextended one’s resources.”

Adam Perkins, a neurobiologist of personality at King’s College London, said that while Trump may not be the most agreeable person, he’s certainly not stupid.

“He is also highly intelligent, and so has a lot of problem-solving horsepower to direct at whatever goals his personality profile sets,” Perkins noted.

He may be lacking in empathy and emotional sensitivity.

The mean tweets, endless insults and flagrant disregard for the feelings of entire populations all point to one thing: Trump doesn’t seem to have a lot of regard for other people.

“Mr. Trump is low on interpersonal sensitivity,” Sherman said of his bullying tendencies. “He is direct and frank in dealing with people, doesn’t stand down from a confrontation, and doesn’t worry about hurting someone’s feelings. The benefit to this is that he is willing to deal with poor performance quickly. The downside is that his team will fear his hostility and he may alienate his staff.”

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KIM KARDASHIAN EXPOSES HER HUGE CLEAVAGE AGAIN!…IS SHE A TREND-SETTER OR A FASHION VICTIM?

The BIG freeze: Kim Kardashian reveals her cold front as she steps out in sub-zero New York temperatures in plunging crop top 

She wore a plunging Medieval dressing gown and very little else to the Grammy Awards in Los Angeles on Sunday night.

So it was no surprise to see Kim Kardashian failing to cover up once again, after landing in sub-zero temperature New York on Monday.

The 34-year-old reality star was spotted wearing a pair of large camouflage trousers and a revealing tight crop top, which put her huge cleavage on display.

There's no hiding them! Kim Kardashian puts her huge cleavage on display as she steps out in bizarre camouflage outfit while out and about in New York on Monday

There’s no hiding them! Kim Kardashian puts her huge cleavage on display as she steps out in bizarre camouflage outfit while out and about in New York on Monday

No scarf needed for this pinup: The daughter of Kris Jenner let her chest be exposed to the chilly breezes

On display: Kim certainly knows how to draw attention with her revealing outfits .No scarf needed for this pinup: The daughter of Kris Jenner let her chest be exposed to the chilly breezes

The temperature in Manhattan was a bone-chilling -1 C/30 F.

Shouldn’t you be wrapping up Kim? Despite the chilly weather, the E! reality star appeared to be more than happy to brave the cold in her revealing outfit.

She needs a new disguise: Dressing up in camo failed to make Kim go unnoticed, as she was greeted by fans and photographers in New York .

Hooked on this look: The mother of North has been showing off her chest with some regularity ever since she lost the baby weight

 

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WHY I STILL CAN’T BRING MYSELF TO FART OR BURP AROUND MY SPOUSE

I’ve been married for a little over six months now, and as comfortable as I am around my husband Robby, I still can’t bring myself to burp or fart in front of him.

Since we’re both in our 50s, you’d think I’d be past this already, but no. Midlife has its privileges, but not when it comes to gas. The fact is, I will do anything to avoid anything intestinal in my husband’s presence. This includes holding it in, sucking it up, breathing through it, and running away to blow it out. Am I old-fashioned, or just too much of a lady to let it rip? Aren’t some things better kept a mystery like bodily functions and flatulence? Or once you’re married, are all bets off?

Sorry, but I’m mortified at the thought of any gas passing through my cheeks — both sets. (Early in our courtship, Robby and I were watching “Behind The Candelabra,” and I laughed so hard at Michael Douglas doing Liberace that I accidentally tooted. I was so embarrassed I could have died.)

My husband, on the other hand, is a guy, and guys LOVE gas, as I’m finding out. They burp and fart with abandon, and think it’s hysterical. When Robby has something to share, he bombs away with a gust of air and a blast of laughter. New marriage be damned!

Much to my surprise, every one of my married girlfriends tells the same story about their spouse’s penchant for tooting. Most go like this: “Phil is just a fart looking for a place to happen. After he cuts one, he’ll say: “Thank you I made it myself, aren’t you proud?”

HA HA. You guys are SO funny! Groan.

I try not to encourage Robby, but the truth is, flatulence IS funny and even I can’t help cracking up. (Besides, if I held it in, it would come out somewhere else and we can’t have that, can we?) With the right timing and tenor, belching and breaking wind can be comic gold. I personally can’t do it, but I appreciate the talent it takes to pull off. For this Robby, you’re a genius.

One night we were sitting around watching TV and I thought I heard Robby let one, so I called him on it.

Me: Did you just say something?

Robby snickers like a mischievous 10-year-old.

Me: I thought so. Please use your words next time.

Robby: You live in Beverly Hills, don’t you speak Fartsi?

Fartsi. See what I mean? The comedy comes out everywhere in our house.

It takes getting used to though. Between never living with a guy and never having brothers, I’m relatively new to this gas passing in front of the opposite sex.

And then there are those flatulating couples who’ve turned gas-passing into a competitive sport, trying to one-up each other with every expulsion. I have a girlfriend who’s so gleefully gassy, her husband proudly describes her as a Union Carbide plant. If he farts down a grocery store aisle, she lovingly calls him a “crop duster” and high-fives him for his efforts.

The question is: Do love and gas mix?

While researching the subject, I found an AskReddit message board offering the following answers:

“After many years together, we have seen (and smelled) each other at our worst, whether it was nursing each other through food poisoning, the flu, post-surgical recovery, or just the aftermath of a big chili dinner. The odd fart or belch has to be something spectacular to make it onto the marital radar, and then is more likely to be the source of amusement than disgust. Helps if you keep your inner 10-year-old alive.”

“This sort of situation is both appealing and disturbing. I want to be so comfortable with my husband SO that I can fart in front of him and he can still think I’m sexy, but I also fear that after a while, the stench I am capable of expelling from my anus would eventually kill our relationship.”

“I don’t get people who hold in their farts forever. I totally do for the first several months of a relationship. Then one squeaks out after tacos or whatever, and opens the door. I particularly can’t imagine voluntarily holding your farts in for YEARS of marriage. Talk about uptight.”

“My wife still holds it in most of the time, but sometimes she will let one out and i find it incredibly endearing when she lets me in behind the “no-fart” curtain. It’s an honor, and a privilege.”

“Trust me, farting in front of someone doesn’t kill the romance of a relationship, having a stick up your ass does though.”

It’s been said that love means never having to say you’re sorry. I say love means never having to say you’re sorry for having gas.

Treva Brandon…Writer, speaker, fitness expert. Imparting wit and wisdom about life and late blooming love

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