If tears could build a stairway
and thoughts a memory lane
I’d walk right up to heaven
and bring you home again.

No Farewell words were spoken
No time to say good-bye
You were gone before I knew it
And only God knows why.

My heart’s still active in sadness
And secret tears still flow
What it meant to lose you
No one can ever know.

But now I know you want us
To mourn for you no more
To remember all the happy times
Life still has much in store.

Since you’ll never be forgotten
I pledge to you today
A hallowed place within my heart
Is where you’ll always stay.


1.You have some beautiful poem here.. brings tears to my eyes.. this sept will be 7 years of the loss of my baby son.. he was 32 years old..

2.Such a nice sweet poem. Made me feel very sad.

3.I could not have expressed myself better. This poem says it all, and the hardest part for a mother is never having been able to say goodbye.

4.The first stanza says it better than i ever could. My tears my thoughts and never having the chance to say goodbye have been the hardest parts to endure. Today is Mothers Day as well as my mothers birthday. Thanks for giving me a way to express what i am truly feeling today. i did not have the words. Thanks!

5. So so sad !!!brings tears to my eyes.

6.The poem expresses my pain it brought my hidden tears out of my eyes bcoz i lost my beloved husband 5 months back who was just 30 yrs.

7.Jerry…! I really miss you…(words r really touched my heart)

8.I just read this poem and it touched my heart so much.. I lost my 22 month daughter June 20,2009 and it seems like it isn’t getting any easier… I love you baby girl and I will see you when I get there…

9.This poem is very sad! If only tears and thoughts would bring you back… Both of you would have been back! To my beloved Uncle and Cousin I miss you both and someday we will all meet again…

10.O God do I ever miss Betty, love you so much. some day will see you again, you can count on it. Love you Betty,

11.This poem expresses my pain about loosing Michael Jackson…Can`t wait to really meet him in Heaven cuz I miss him sooo much. May your soul rest in peace, darling Michael!

12.I have the first part of this poem tattooed on the inside of my arm in memory of my nana….. Sums things up well

13.I have the first 2 clauses on little stones at the graves of my beloved dogs and horse. I think is speaks volumes for all the losses of those we loved.

14.Christopher, I love you so very, very much and I miss you more with each passing second. Why you were taken at such a young age, only God knows. It has only been 2 months, and it seems like forever. We’ll be together again someday, with all of my love, Aunt Carol If Tears Could Build A Stairway

15.My friend Steven passed away in May. This poem was everywhere at his Wake and Funeral. I enjoy this poem so much. 🙂

16.My dad passed away and this was the poem at the funeral. It basically sums up my feelings. He will never be forgotten.

17.i have this poem on my dad grave stone it means the exact way i feel thank you

18.On October 28th, 2010 my mother attended a funeral being held for the daughter of a close friend. When she returned home with the program I noticed that “If Tears Could Build A Stairway” was on the back. As I read it, the words touched me so profoundly that I felt compelled to write a song based (in part) on its wording. After re-reading the poem, I sat down with my guitar and completed the song.What I didn’t know it at the time was that my own father’s death was 0nly two weeks away. When I played “If Tears Could Build A Stairway” at my father’s funeral, there wasn’t a dry eye in the auditorium.I’ll be forever grateful to whomever wrote the poem. grandpa loved this poem and he always will… he has passed but still feels like he is with us

20.I really would like to know if I could use this for the home page of my website dedicated to my family that has passed away. It is not a commercial site, just for our family

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  1. Additional comments from the same web page

    I read this poem when I want to remember my mom… I miss her more then anything… if i could walk up there and bring her back i would.

    I lost my mum not to long ago was home in Ireland to lay her to rest. I found this poem with a friend and I knew it was the one.I read it at her fruneral. I still read it to remind me how lucky I was to have found this poem to express how I felt at such a hard loss.

    We lost our best friend just this past November in a tragic car accident. He was only 21. We miss him so much and wish we could climb those stairs and bring him back. R.I.P Alec Katchur >3 we love and miss you buddy.

    I start to cry instantly, I write this on cards all the time which I bring to the cemetery when I visit my Mom. It’s so hard on us who are still here and trying our best to carry on. This poem sums up my feelings, so thanks for sharing..

    I wouldn’t want to bring them home. I would want to join them and stay in heaven.

    I agree, I lost my own daughter at 3mths old to a cot death and 2morrow she woul have been 26 and she will always be in my heart

    I have to agree with you there. I recently lost a baby girl (Sophia), last month. She passed on before she was born and it still hurts a lot to know that I didn’t have a chance to meet her or say good-bye.

    my loving child… i miss yu soo much… and i love this poem cuz if i could i would bring yu back agen… what id do to hold yu one more time yu could never know… 8 weeks tomurro and i cannot belive i still stand without… i am not gunna say goodbye tho but just wait to say hello… one day we’ll b together agen xxxx more love than yu can imagine from your mummy xxx loves yu my miley-mai xxxxx

    I just found out someone I cared about very much passed away at the age of 43. Although I hadn’t seen him in quite a while, I thought of him often. He made a huge impact on my life and I will cherish our memories. He will always be in my heart and this poem explains how I feel. Rest in Peace Jack.

    This poem brought tears to my eyes, especially today as it would have been my mums birthday. I lost her 6 years ago and words can’t express how much she still means to me and how much I miss her. This poem said it all.

    My big brother passed away from “Athlete’s heart” at 32 years young. He had traveled the world and lived more in that time than most of us will if we live to be 80. My Mom and I found the first part of this poem in a magazine on a memorial plaque for a pet in June of 2001, we used it on a quilt piece at the funeral home. I plan to share it on FB this month in his memory for his birthday. I miss you Ronnie!

    My uncle commit suicide in 1989 and I’ve never stopped mourning him. It tore apart my family and I’d give anything to bring him back. This poem sums up exactly how I still feel towards the death, and I’m sure how the rest of my family feel, especially my mum. Its such a beautiful poem and I’m so glad I read it.

    Today would have been my Grandma’s 90th bithday. I read this at her funeral and can still remember it now. Very moving words for a vedry special person

    when ever i read that poem i think of my mom and my uncle who died when i was a little kid and that still bothers me that they are gone but you know they are in a better place now love u mommy and uncle larry.

    This says everything. It is 10 years today that my Craig passed to the other side but OMG it is so painful still.

    This poem is very touhing..My dad passed away one day while I was in school and I nevr got to tell him goodbye. I love you and miss you dad!

    I lost my parents 11 months apart and the words that are expressed by the author resonate so profoundly with that loss. I have a memorial tattoo on my back for the people that I have lost that touched profoundly touched my life. The first passage of this poem is now tattooed between my shoulders to highlight the back piece itself.

    My lovely 28 year old son hung himself last December. On the 28th May, his Birthday we plan to scatter his ashes and I intend to read this poem which perfectly encpsulates the way I feel. It makes me cry every time I read it and a copy of it sits next to his picture. Whoever wrote this knew what grief is.

    I read the first line of the ‘If Tears Could Build a Stairway’ poem at my dad’s funeral on 26 April last year. I miss him every day and on Tuesday I will light a candle and remember all the love and laughter he gave to me. I love you dad xx

    My husband passed also on April 1st and it was so unexpected. This poem says all I want to say too. Just want to let you know that your in my prayers.

    my only son dropped dead alone in his flat sometime between 30th march and 1st april, her was 41and as yet we still have not got him back. My grandson found this poem and has decided to say this at his funeral which we are hoping will be on 4th may 2011
    it is amazing how this one poem can encapsulate all i am feeling right at this moment many thanks to whoever wrote it.

    I lost my boyfriend 5 months ago, he was 35 and just collapsed one day at our home. No words were spoken or a chance for goodbyes he was gone so fast this poem says it all i miss him dearly, until we meet again i love you Drew xxx


    i just lost my mom a month ago, she was only 52 this breaks my heart

    This poem always comforts me when I feel lonely and when I miss my dearest mentor my friend my father(baTATA)

    Today is the 25th May, my beautiful Grandaughters birthday. She passed 26th May 2009, she would have turned 21 today. Miss you so much Felicia. XXX This poem is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

    This poem is absolutely amazing and so heartwarming to read but it sends back so many memories of my dear cousin that I can relate to him through. RIP Brandon L Hodges I love you so much and you will always be in my heart.

    I’m so pleased I found this poem. My brother’s death was sudden so no chance 2 say gbye, had it read at his funeral

    This poem really means a lot to me. I designed monuments for years, did the layouts for lettering, floral, designs, etc. But this was a favorite…when my dad passed in 2002, i made his monument & on his stone I put the 1st verse of this poem on it….

    I just lost my 35 yr old son 2 months ago. My heart is crushed…feel like I can’t breathe most of the time. I miss him every minute of every day.

    My daughter died in my arms 11 years ago tonight. The pain is still so strong. This poem says it all.

    It’s been a week today since my granny passed away of lung cancer.. She has been my mother and my best friend throughout my 22 years! The first part of the poem is exactly what I wanna do.. Go to heaven and bring her back because it’s so hard to live without her! Ugh granny.. You left me so heartbroken.. I love you forever

    My grandpa died about 4 years ago. I wish I could say goodbye one last time! And now my Grandma died about 2 years ago! I couldn’t say good bye to her. She was there one moment then gone the next. She had dementia and would call me the wrong names! And she knew when her time came. She asked my dad if he needed anything else and he said no he didn’t. And the next day she passed on. At first I wanted them back but now I know that they are in a much better place!

    my father passed away year next week and i was looking for a poem this made me cry lovely ,and i know were you are comeing from god bless you hunnie rest in peace.

    my brother was killed in Iraq and this poem touches my heart. I’ll never forget him, I still cry and my husband tells me it’s okay to cry. I wish I could have told him goodbye but I never got the chance

    my granny left this world and went to see our father in 2002 and it is also on her grave stone!! I LOVE AND MISS YOU CAROLINE B ANDREWS!!!!

    This brought tears to my eyes because I just lost my best friend to Leukeimia :-(RIP Kierst

    For my beautiful daughter cheryl who was killed 13 years ago by a car. Saw this poem and as I love cross stitch I did this poem in her memory. Have since done five more for friends who have lost a loved one. It takes a week to do. It looks lovely in cross stitch.

    I loved this poem because I read it when my grandma died… she died very unexpectedly… i miss her dearly

    My wee brother was 5 when he died playing with our wee dog, he wandered away from the house and i was only 10, and followed the dog to the shore, where he fell off a small cliff and into the sea, banged his head and drowned, i heard a shout for “help” to this day i hear it so clear.

    1981 is a long time ago, but a blink in a memory, i wish i could have found him and saved his life but it was not to be, he was 5. 5 short years to a beautiful little brother is nothing, my heart breaks writing this, and i miss him with all my heart this christmas he would be 36, so 31 years without my little brother is a very long time, i miss you and this poem is for you, till we meet again.

    I love this poem! I lost both of my parents in 2000 due to a drunk driver, I was nine then, now 21. I have both of there names tattooed on my back and I’m going to add the first four lines of this poem. Simply beautiful! 🙂

    Today is 6 months since we lost mt dear Nanny to cancer!!! There isn’t a day that passes I don’t think about her.. This poem means a lot to me and my family!!Rip nana love and miss you always.”your gone but NEVER forgotten”

    This poem means a lot to me in the loving memory of Mitchell Duane Kintyhtt 9-20-08 I wish I Would of got to know u baby.
    love u.Mommy


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